Sobriety is ultimately not about alcohol or some drug. It’s about honesty and transparency. And, like honesty and transparency, it is not all or nothing, but has degrees. We are all sober according to more or less, according to the degree that our lives are an open book with nothing hidden in the closet.
At one point, Rolheiser says, “You can do anything if you don’t have to lie about it.” Interesting concept. And while one can think of exceptions to this perhaps oversimplified statement, for a person who is truly seeking to follow God, it rings true.
“We are as sick as our secrets,” is another saying I’ve learned in the recovery process. This is not to say that, for example, this blog should become an outpouring of every personal detail about my life and its challenges…there are some appropriate boundaries I’ve established that are healthy for me to have. (I don’t know about you, but I’ve read some blogs and felt a bit embarrassed for the writers.) However, I am always seeking to find/maintain a balance that allows others access to the real me without violating these healthy boundaries. So you see, this blog is kind of an open book on my life, but I only include the footnotes for those whom I choose. I do pay a price for my openness, as there some things about my story that make some people uncomfortable. But in many ways the alternative is much more costly.
What do you think about this?